Pleasure from indulging ourselves is momentary.

Guilt from having done so lasts much longer. 

Eating an entire bag of chips, browsing online and impulsively buying a new gadget, hitting snooze on the alarm clock as we burrow back into the sheets—all are done because we feel entitled to them.

Perhaps we had worked hard and felt a reward was deserved.

Perhaps we hadn’t worked hard and sought to distract ourselves from self-reproach.

Perhaps we were unhappy.

Or just bored.

And so we indulged ourself and felt a surge of enjoyment. All too soon, however, that momentary pleasure passes and only the memory remains. And with it guilt. Having previously determined the futility of such indulgences, we had told ourselves we wouldn’t repeat them. And yet, we just did. Feelings of frustration, remorse, embarrassment fester within us. They linger, enduring far longer than any fleeting satisfaction from our latest bout of indulgence.

What can we do?

Understand we have more work to do, commit ourselves to doing it, and get to work.

It’s a lot easier to think before acting

than it is to find a good friend. 

Thanks to most of us having had parents who learned good manners from their own parents, we were taught how to behave in public. And so, as adults, we are civil when interacting with strangers and acquaintances.

But it would seem we either find this degree of civility too difficult to maintain or we simply forget to. Ironically, we feel so relaxed with those whom we spend the most time with, we allow courtesy to fly out the proverbial window. We end up treating strangers more respectfully—and considerately—than we do family members and friends.

While relatives would find it difficult to leave us, friends have fewer such restraints. Although it would cause them distress, they can simply walk out of our life. And be gone. All because we forgot to treat them with respect and consideration. We should remember close friendships are rare and need tending.

Having few good friends, we can’t afford carelessness, can’t afford to lose a good friend.