We should mind our own business

and not the business of others.

This advice from Great Master Yinguang speaks to us of gossiping, a habit we all indulge in to some degree. Consider what you talk about with others. A project you’re working on, or your co-workers? The book you just read, or what you heard someone did at the party last night?

When we gossip, we indulge in speculation and spread rumors. But even if what we say is true, is it our business? Would we be uncomfortable if the person heard what we said?

We can tell ourselves the other person will never know. But the one we told knows. Perhaps they will think less of us. Most likely, we will have planted negative thoughts in their minds. How? We rarely gossip by saying how wonderful someone is! We talk about their perceived wrongdoings.

Instead of talking about what others have done, we need to focus on our own behavior and correct our faults before others have cause to gossip about us. 

When weeding, we need to pull out the roots,

or the weeds will grow back.

Eradicating bad habits is the same;

remove the root, or the habit will reappear.

A person unskilled at weeding will often begin by just removing what lies above the soil: the stems and leaves. But seemingly overnight, the weeds start growing back. And so the novice gardener learns a valuable lesson: removing just the visible parts of the plant won’t eliminate it. The roots need to uncovered and dug out.

In a like manner, we often try to shed bad habits just by curtailing visible behaviors. But this leaves the underlying causes intact. Not surprisingly, as soon as we relax our guard, the bad habits resume popping up, rampant as those weeds.

To permanently eradicate bad habits, we need to destroy their roots. How?

First, we need to determine the underlying causes of the habits. Maybe selfishness? How about a lack of integrity? Laziness?

Once the causes are determined, we can eliminate them.

Forever.

Bodhisattvas fear causes;

sentient beings fear results.

Understanding that every cause will have a consequence, bodhisattvas strive to avoid creating evil causes while generating those that are good. This two-pronged approach allows these awakened beings to have the right conditions to continue along the path to enlightenment.

Unawakened beings, on the other hand, are like children who having committed a misdeed hope they won’t get caught. When their bad conduct is discovered, they may blame others. Or they may become defensive, not realizing such reactions are yet more causes, causes that will incur yet more painful results leading to further suffering.

To stop fearing results, we need to live wisely in the present instead of figuring out ways to escape the past.

How?

By being continuously alert to what we do, to what causes we are creating. Without a cause, adverse consequences will not occur, and we will have saved ourselves from their associated suffering.

Instead of automatically reacting with sarcasm

or trying to be clever, think again.

Will our wit ridicule another?

Will our sarcasm harm the listener?

For varied reasons, ranging from wanting to make others laugh to being considered witty, we can find ourselves using sarcasm. But what is sarcasm? Yet another manifestation of anger.

We may view ourselves as amusing, but we’re just being unkind in belittling another person or some situation. There’s a valid reason the Greeks defined sarcasm as “tearing flesh.”

Before glibly tossing out another sarcastic quip, we need to figure out why we feel inclined to do so.

So others will laugh?

Think us sophisticated with our rapier wit? Surely, we can find a way to cheer people up or impress them with our humor without resorting to disrespect and ridicule.

And if we really are clever, we will realize that our sharp remarks nurture tension in others on a subtle level as well as plant seeds for our own future belittlement.

Ordinary beings view things dualistically:

as two, not one.

Awakened beings understand

all phenomena are one, not two.

Viewing all circumstances and objects with a dualistic mind, we see them as being in opposition, as either one thing or another. We thus categorize everything in contrasting terms like pleasing or annoying, superior or inferior.

With such discriminatory thoughts, we spend time trying to acquire more of what we desire while avoiding everything we dislike.

Viewing things dualistically causes us endless problems and agitation.

For example, viewing a spoon from different angles another person and I argue over whether the spoon is convex or concave.

Awakened beings, on the other hand, understand that all phenomena are one. They observe the spoon as one object with two aspects. In such a manner, they view all situations and objects non-dualistically, and can act judiciously without a trace of rancor.