When trying to avoid our own inconvenience . . .

When unable to see a person’s reaction,

we need to be even more careful with our words.

When we’re talking with another person, we may inadvertently say something that hurts or bothers the person. Since we’re looking at him we can see his reaction and, hopefully, address any misunderstanding. This process is the nature of conversation: our speaking and then hearing another’s response as we observe his physical reactions. We continue chatting based on these verbal and physical cues.

But when we write—and especially when writing a comment online—we don’t have the advantage of seeing how others react. Fixated on driving home our point without being able to see the reader’s reaction, we don’t see the hurt expression, the flash of anger. Unable to see these reactions, we have no clue as to the damage our words are inflicting. And so we plow ahead like a runaway train.

Rather, we need to take control of the chaotic situation, and like a good engineer drive the train responsibly and arrive safely.

And be a polite driver at that.

“Character is destiny.”

Our greatest achievements 
begin with modest first steps.

One day, when a group of practitioners was discussing the challenges of practicing every day, one person asked another how long she chants.

“Twenty minutes,” she replied.

“That’s all?” the questioner, a little shocked, blurted out. What he hadn’t thought to follow up with was “How often?”

In hoping to alleviate his dismay, the respondent explained that she chants a few times a day. She revealed that in such a manner, she keeps the buddha-name more firmly in mind. Additionally, if she finds that she has more time, she will chant even longer!

The now intrigued questioner queried, “Why twenty minutes?”

To which, the person explained how she started with chanting five minutes a day. Accomplishing this initial goal, she felt confident that she could do more and so gradually increased the length of time, to now twenty minutes. From a modest goal, habits can be established. And then improved upon.