When pursuing something enjoyable, remember 

“All phenomena are illusory.”

When avoiding something unpleasant, remember 

“All phenomena are illusory.” 

Most of us spend a great deal of time chasing what we believe will make us happy and evading what we fear will cause us suffering. But in fact, both chasing and evading cause suffering.

In Buddhism, we learn that all phenomena—all things, events, relationships—are unreal and impermanent. Good times and favorable conditions are not real because they don’t last. Thankfully, the same applies to bad times and unfavorable conditions.

Even though we may understand the principle, when we have yet to embrace the reality that nothing here in samsara continues forever, we will continue to suffer. If we accept that phenomena are always in flux and stop trying to force everything to conform to our wishes, we will stop struggling.

Struggling causes the suffering.

Acceptance and patience ease the suffering.

Changing habits is like walking a tightrope. 

Having a habit puts me in mind of a tightrope (and the hope that this isn’t a wandering thought).

Having done something many times, we feel confident in doing it again. Focused on our goal, we move ahead without any misstep as if walking a familiar tightrope. Acting from habits is very similar. Having repeatedly done something, we go forward without thinking, undeterred and confident we’re doing the right thing.

Until, hopefully, the day we realize this approach hasn’t really worked all that well for us because we have, indeed, been making missteps. And so we attempt to make corrections. But because we are now trying to do things differently, our steps become hesitant as we first blunder in one direction, then in correcting ourselves flounder too far in the other direction. We lurch back and forth, and sometimes even fall down, in our attempts to act more thoughtfully.

As long as we persevere, we will reach the point where our actions become not only confident, but correct.

Don’t judge others. 

First, we don’t understand enough.

Fairly judging someone would require us to know the karmic trail the individual had laid down over countless lifetimes to establish why she acted as she just did.

We’d also need to know the karmic sequence of all those involved to ascertain the causes and consequences that contributed to the event we are attempting to judge.

All this is beyond our abilities at this point in our practice. Which is okay because it’s rarely our place, or responsibility, to judge others, a fact we tend to overlook most of the time. Unless the pronouncement were to arise naturally from our innate prajna wisdom, from our ability to simply know and understand all that has transpired, we’d have to use discriminatory thoughts to reach it. But we’re supposed to eliminate, not wantonly increase, our discriminatory thoughts.

So, fortunately, we can restrict our judging inclinations to our own actions.

Do not envy others for what they have. 

Get busy planting more good seeds. 

It’s very tempting when looking at those who have much good fortune to feel envious or deem it unfair in light of so many other people having so little. It doesn’t help when the fortunate ones are obnoxious and egotistical. Seriously, why should they get to enjoy such wealth! They get to because they planted the relevant seeds.

In other words, they earned their good fortune.

In previous lifetimes, they were generous and thoughtful not puffed-up and pompous. Whether they had much or little, they gave their resources, time, and energy. Perhaps, they publicly gave when they thought it would inspire others also to give. Maybe they gave anonymously to not embarrass the recipient. However they gave, they did so with sincerity and respect. And look at them now. Selfish and arrogant, they are planting seeds for a harrowing future downfall.

Learn from their example: Humbly open your heart and your hands to help others.

And don’t ever close them. 

Don’t agitate the water.

Or your mind.

Think of the mind as a pool of water.

When the water is calm, we can see all the way to the bottom. We thus view everything clearly without obstruction in its sparkling perfection.

But when the water is disturbed, the mud rises from the bottom, and the water becomes cloudy, contaminated by all the dirt swirling around. When we need to decide how to respond to or resolve a situation, we need a clear mind.

Chanting “Amituofo” allows us to calm our agitated mind just as we would enable the water in the pond to clarify by allowing all the mud and other contaminants to settle to the bottom.

But if we become frenzied in our attempts to figure out what to do, trying one method then another, it will be as if we reached into that pond and started wildly roiling the water, frantically poking here, grasping there.

Instead, sit quietly and allow the water—your thoughts—to settle.

Doing so, your solution will shine forth.